Should Kids Wait to Use Social Media Until They’re 16? One Expert Thinks So.
In today’s world, most kids are growing up surrounded by phones, apps, and social media. But one expert, Dr. Jean M. Twenge, thinks we need to slow things down — especially when it comes to kids using smartphones and social media.
Dr. Twenge is a psychologist and professor who studies how technology affects young people. In her new book, 10 Rules for Raising Kids in a High-Tech World, she gives parents practical advice for helping kids grow up healthy and happy in a digital age. She recently talked about the book in an interview with education journalist Greg Toppo at The 74.
One of her biggest suggestions? Don’t let kids use social media until they are at least 16 years old — about the age when they’re allowed to drive. Why? Because research shows that teens who spend more time on social media are more likely to feel depressed, anxious, and alone.
She also recommends starting kids off with a basic phone — one that only allows texting and calling, not apps like Instagram or TikTok. Dr. Twenge says kids can still stay in touch with friends through texting, FaceTime, or by spending time together in person. Social media is not the only way for kids to connect.
One of the most eye-opening parts of the interview was a story from a parent who said their 10-year-old daughter changed completely after getting a smartphone. She stopped playing, helping out at home, and even laughing as much. Dr. Twenge says this kind of story is all too common.
The book also talks about making homes and schools healthier places for kids. She suggests no phones in bedrooms overnight, and no phones at school during the day. These rules can help kids sleep better, focus more, and build real-life social skills.
Dr. Twenge knows it’s hard for parents — especially since adults use social media too. But she encourages families to set rules and lead by example. Even small changes, like keeping phones out of the bedroom, can make a big difference.
If you’re a parent, teacher, or someone who cares about kids, this interview is worth reading. It’s full of helpful tips and big questions about how we can protect kids from the downsides of technology.